Self-Injurious Behavior

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It’s what all parents dread: finding that their son or daughter has been intentionally hurting themselves. These kids and teens are in a lot of emotional and psychological pain, and need treatment immediately.

Cutting is when a person intentionally hurts themselves to the point of drawing blood. It is done to release negative emotions, or to distract oneself from emotional pain. Most teens who are cutting are going through a very difficult time in their lives. Some people don’t even know why they are doing it.

Other types of self-injurious behaviors include:

• Punching oneself
• Burning oneself
• Pulling out one’s own hair
• Poking objects through body openings
• Breaking one’s own bones
• Bruising oneself
• Plucking hair for hours

Ironically, most teens who do these behaviors are not trying to kill themselves. They are trying to find a way to make the pain in their life stop. Cutting is a symptom of a much deeper problem. Most of them say they are trying to feel something, anything, since they have gone “numb” in their emotional life. They may be fighting Depression, Anxiety, Eating Disorders, low self-esteem, rage, substance abuse addictions or loneliness.

Parents who have discovered that their teen is cutting should:

• Call a professional for help immediately.
• Remove the cutting tools and objects from the immediate area.
• Allow other, less dangerous, self-injurious behaviors, such as squeezing an ice cube, drawing on the skin with a red pen, or snapping a rubber band on the wrist.
• Allow other expressions of emotions, such as drawing, writing poetry or rap music, scribbling on paper, hitting a punching bag, pillow or bed, screaming into a pillow, ripping up old newspapers, talking to self out loud in the privacy of their own room, and calling or texting trusted friends.
• If there is bleeding that will not stop, go directly to the Emergency Room at your local hospital.

Most teens who have been cutting will be prescribed an anti-depressant, and/or an anti-anxiety medication. Find a quality child and adolescent psychiatrist, who will oversee the proper type of medication, dosage and track improvement. These are powerful medications. Never stop taking them “cold turkey” and never take them differently than prescribed. Doing so can be extremely dangerous.

Here is an interesting article about a group trying to help teens with cutting behavior:

http://articles.lancasteronline.com/local/4/248995

Thanks for reading. Let me know if I can be of service to you in any way.

Sincerely,

Jaril Faith Gallup, LCSW

Food Addictions

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It is so fascinating to learn more about Food Addictions. I went to a seminar the other day, and learned all about our national problems with obesity, the psychology of food addictions, and specific behaviors needed to change our weight.

The presenter was Dr. Laura Pawlawk, author of “Stop Gaining Weight,” and I heard her at a previous seminar about a similar topic. She described much of the brain’s neuro-chemical patterns about food, pleasure, and addictions. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter responsible for pleasure, and Serotonin is responsible for impulse control.

One of the biggest eye-opening things I learned was that if food is the only reward or pleasure in our lives, we will quickly develop a food addiction. She said that the brain is wired for pleasure, and seeks out rewards for itself. We have to find pleasure, reward, meaning and value from other areas of life (other than food). Some examples include:

• Volunteering to help others with our unique skills and talents
• Sunshine
• Physical touch from a friend
• Art and music
• Creating beauty

Of course, she talked about eating whole foods, and no, pop-tarts are not whole foods. She asked, “Look at your plate. Did that thing on the plate grow from the ground? If not, it isn’t a whole food.”

One other memorable thing she said was, “Eat whole foods. Not too much. Mostly plants.”

If you or someone you know is struggling with food addiction, and wants some support and specific behaviors to help lose weight, please visit my website or give me a call at 847-962-5234. Feel Free to pass on this newsletter to anyone you’d like.

Thanks for reading! Let me know if I can be of service to you in any way!

- Jaril Faith Gallup, LCSW