Memorial Day


Remembering. Hats off to our fallen soldiers, and our military folks.* Rituals of parades, decorating the graves, and honoring all American soldiers who gave their lives in war, whether the Revolutionary War, Civil War, World War 1, World War 2, Korean War, Vietnam War, Gulf War, Persian War, or War on Terror. Remembering.

Some would like to forget. Grief and loss issues can impact one’s life in many ways. Working through the grief process is something I can help you with. I used to work at a Hospice program, as a Bereavement Counselor, and have helped many people, through individual and group therapy.

Denial is a strong way to avoid the painful feelings of loss, and a normal, natural part of the grief process. It is the brain’s way of protecting itself against the strong impact of the loss. Anger is often a part of grief, whether angry at God, the war, the enemy, the doctors, the nurses or the deceased. Some anger gets out of control, and that’s when you need help.

Bargaining is a stage of grief and loss that some people experience. It is the idea of making a deal with God to somehow bring back the deceased. Thoughts of, “I’ll read my Bible every day, if you bring my loved one back,” are typical in the bargaining stage.

Depression can be complicated with a grief or a loss in life. Not everyone who has depression is grieving, and not everyone who is grieving gets depressed. However, if you have a change in appetite, poor sleep patterns, loss of pleasure in things once enjoyed, and sadness more days than not, you might have clinical depression. I can assess for major depression, and distinguish between it and normal grief.

Acceptance is the final stage in grief and loss. It doesn’t mean you are happy about the loss, but it means that you have thoughts of, “My life still has meaning,” and “My life goes on, even without my loved one.”

Please let me know if I can be of service to you. Please call me today at 847-962-5234.

J. Faith Gallup, LCSW

*Here is a great 3 minute video from the History Channel:

depression resources

helpful websites

  • TroubledWith: Depression
    Excellent collection of resources on dealing with anxiety disorders, as well as when and how to seek treatment.
  • When you're just getting started
    If you're depressed, or think you might be, here are some ways to take care of yourself as you begin treatment. Talk with your doctor about how these steps may fit in with your treatment plan.
  • Depression Screening (NIMH)
    A confidential online depression screening test, as well as information on symptoms, treatments, and how to find help.