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Happy Mother’s Day!

05.03.13

Mothers are so important in a child’s life. They provide the nurturing, comfort, love and support that children need to lean how to cope in this world.

I have been learning a lot lately about the mirror neurons in the brain, and how they work. Basically, if we are looking into the eyes of an important person, our brain mirrors the emotional state of that person. So, imagine a child who is full of fear and anxiety, looking at his mother, who is calm, serene and smiling. The child’s mirror neurons will see that there truly is nothing to be afraid of, since mother is so calm. The child’s brain then calms down.

If your child is having some severe behaviors, why not learn more about becoming a loving, calm mother who can provide the attachment and connection needed for the child to calm down? Many times, a child’s acting out behavior is a result of fear, perhaps based on past trauma, or personality. If mothers can learn how to appropriately enter into the situation, affirming the child’s emotions without getting fearful herself, it can literally help the child to calm down. This doesn’t happen overnight, and it is not an easy thing to do, since many times the mother is furious at the child’s behaviors. But it’s worth it.

Can I help you have a better parent-child relationship? Yes, if you will take some time to learn new techniques and approaches to take with your difficult child. Give me a call for more information. I look forward to serving you and your family.

Faith Gallup, LCSW
847-962-5234