*Do you ever feel like your life is out of control, and it’s all due to other people? “If those people weren’t such a wreck, I wouldn’t have chaos in my life.” Do you ever think people take advantage of you, or manipulate you, at the expense of your own needs getting met?”

Maybe you have troubles setting boundaries. You’re trying to be loving, and serve others. But you have guilt, frustration, and feel like your life is out of control.

In the physical world, boundaries are easy to see: fences, moats, walls, doors. But in the relational world, boundaries are harder to see. How do we say “no” in a loving way, so that we can have a life in balance? When is it appropriate to care for others, and when is it not appropriate?

Boundaries help us distinguish what are our responsibilities, and what things are not. Sometimes we take on issues that are not ours to take on, and God Himself never expected us to do those. Perhaps we don’t take on our own responsibilities, such as handling our emotions, planning our time, handling our possessions.

*Much of this information is from one of my favorite books, “Boundaries,” by Dr. Henry Cloud, and Dr. John Townsend. Enjoy this video (10 minutes):

If you have trouble with boundaries, I can help you. Please call me as soon as possible to set up an appointment. Please keep in mind that I can only see people on Saturdays in my Gurnee office. Plus, I have been very booked lately, so you might have to wait a few weeks.

Faith Gallup, LCSW

anxiety resources

helpful websites

  • TroubledWith: Stress
    Excellent collection of resources on dealing with anxiety disorders, as well as when and how to seek treatment.
  • Anxiety Disorders Association of America (ADAA)
    National, non-profit membership organization dedicated to informing the public, healthcare professionals and legislators about anxiety disorders, promote the early diagnosis, treatment and cure of anxiety disorders, and improve the lives of the people who suffer from them.
  • Freedom From Fear
    National not-for-profit mental health advocacy association developed to impact, in a positive way, the lives of all those affected by anxiety, depressive and related disorders through advocacy, education, research and community support.